By divided-self, Laing meant the struggle between a unique true-self, filled with idiosyncratic and genuine emotions, but too insecure to emerge, and the false-self of an external faade, conforming to the relentless circumstances of life. ❋ Ron Taffel (2009)
His daughter, not surprisingly, took up diary writing, a place for her true-self to be privately chronicled as she got older. ❋ Ron Taffel (2009)
Today, in order to keep up with the speed of life and a high definition emphasis on the look of things, kids need to push down true-self feelings and keep moving ahead fast! ❋ Ron Taffel (2009)
We need to be more aware that the parent-child relationship represents the most powerful opportunity for nurturing empathy in children, and is a means for kids of all ages to recognize the buried compassion of their split-off, true-self. ❋ Ron Taffel (2009)
As each of these examples shows, balancing clear expectations and instrumental reinforcement helps kids develop their hidden true-self, their better sides of being more responsible for their actions and knowing right from wrong. ❋ Ron Taffel (2009)
I am often still surprised by what a positive, true-self response I get when I more authentically express feelings. ❋ Ron Taffel (2009)
This talking ritual ended up changing their experience around the house, creating a predictable time to be together, as well as leading to enrollment in the local public school that did not feel so alienating, a real match for this boys better, more modest true-self. ❋ Ron Taffel (2009)
Whom do you want: the false-self of the faade or your childs better, true-self? ❋ Ron Taffel (2009)
Although I now teach this in just about every presentation, it took me nearly a decade to realize that by being fascinated with the seemingly trivial aspects of a childs lifewho was there, what they were wearing, how did they look, what did they say thenat least occasionally, those trivialities lead to true-self experience and life dilemmas that absolutely need to be shared with an adult. ❋ Ron Taffel (2009)
With kids, nothing turns into something far more often than you would expect, and may provide a look into their true-self concerns. ❋ Ron Taffel (2009)
If you dont protect talking rituals, your kids will more than likely open up about true-self matters only during those mindless moments online or in school. ❋ Ron Taffel (2009)
Indirect communication humorously bridges the divide and touches the irreverent side of kids true-self that is reserved only for their very, very best palsor the entire world on Facebook. ❋ Ron Taffel (2009)
Finding our true-self parent, not that managerial, two-dimensional, or out-of-control parent, will bring out kids better-self from behind the harried disconnection and dividedness of twenty-first century life. ❋ Ron Taffel (2009)
He was unable to realize his true self because his [false ego] cant let him acknowledge his self [deception], [the lie] hes convinced himself. ❋ H.Bogart (2015)
Come on, let go of the remote
Don't you know you're letting all the junk flood in
I try to stop the flow, double-clicking on the go
But it's no use, hey I'm being consumed
Loading... Loading... Loading...
Quickly reaching [maximum capacity]
Warning... Warning... Warning...
Gonna short-circuit my identity (ahh)
Get up on your feet, tear down the walls
Catch a glimpse of the hollow world
Snooping 'round town will get you nowhere
You're locked up in your mind
We're all trapped in a maze of relationships
[Life goes on] with or without you
I swim in the sea of the unconscious
I search for your heart, [pursuing my true self] ❋ Bipedal Hô (2021)
you know how [Shinji Ikari] once said: "Everything is simply [a shape], a form, an [identifier] to let others recognize me as me! But then, what am I? Is this me? My true self? My fake self? What is it that I am? Nobody understands me!" yeah, I relate to that. ❋ Francescunt (2021)
